Annoyed? Reflect and learn with this opportunity for self-improvement.
People can be annoying. Well, not everyone is annoying. Certainly not you and me, though at times you…
I have an immediate reaction to certain behaviors—annoyance. I attach the annoyance to the person exhibiting it. If I’m highly annoyed I will probably label the person as an annoying person. If slightly annoyed, I might cut the person some slack and decide they don’t realize they’re being annoying.
Learning from Annoyance
I learned an important insight about annoyance, partly when it was pointed out to me, and then reinforced by my own self-reflection and awareness. Often times, we’re annoyed by behaviors of other people which are behaviors we don’t like in ourselves. Rather than being upset with ourselves, we attach our displeasure to someone else.
If you spot it, you got it.
If I spot it in some one else and it annoys me, it’s probably a behavior of mine that I don’t like. When I feel annoyed at someone, I now reflect on whether I’m really just annoyed at myself. Monitoring annoyance helps me improve who I am being.
To Do Today
Observe or recall the annoying behavior of someone. Ask yourself: Do I do that too? Am I really annoyed at myself? When did I last exhibit that same behavior? How can I change?